Don't become a doormat

We live in a society where the dating game has changed. Women think they need to pick up the tab, cater to their man, be at his beck and call, and sacrifice in order to be in a relationship. Well, I think that’s a bunch of crap.

A close relative of mine was recently broken up with by her boyfriend, and as she filled me in on the inner workings of what went on in their relationship I was completely shocked. She shared that she picked up the bill on dates, bought him an endless number of gifts, cooked extravagant meals for him, and even paid to put gas in his car!

Again, I was in shock as I heard all of that and tried my best to not turn from consoling cousin to opinionated woman.

Ladies! Please look in the mirror. See how beautiful you are, recognize the countless number of qualities that make you special and valuable. You are PRICELESS and deserve to be treated as such. When you don’t acknowledge your value yourself, you open yourself up to being treated as invaluable by your partner. Which of course leads to a growing number of women thinking that all men are bad and unworthy of their time. That’s completely not true.

Chivalry is not dead and all gentlemen are not extinct. When you value yourself you will attract men into your life who will value you too.

I don’t think you need to cater to your man. And I sure as heck don’t think you should be picking up the tab (sure there are exceptions to this, but if a man asks you on a date, he should be paying). A relationship is a two-way street. Two people who genuinely have each other’s best interest at heart and seek to better each other’s lives. Don’t fall into the trap of catering to a man and doting on him all the while he shirks his end of the deal.

I cannot stress enough how important it is to value yourself when you enter the dating pool. You will save yourself so much heartache and won’t waste your time with unworthy suitors.