Honesty

Honesty is the best policy. In my last post I talked about how hiding behind technology can be detrimental to your relationship. Well, now I would like to talk about not hiding behind your own thoughts and communicating.

As people, we tend to form ideas and opinions as to why people are acting the way they are. Chances are the reasons you come up with are far from accurate.

I struggle with this in a big way. For some reason when I am feeling “blown off,” I assume that it’s because the person doesn’t want to spend time with me and doesn’t value our relationship. I have also developed over the years the inability to just sit back and not address things head on.

I make a point now of going directly to the person to say exactly what is on my mind. Like my best friend, I REALLY miss her and have tons of things that I want to catch her up on. So I said exactly that! Turns out she’s not blowing me off, she is just struggling to balance two jobs and the rest of the stuff in her life. Hearing that of course made me feel WAY better.

So take my advice, don’t fall victim to your own ideas of why people are behaving the way they are. Just open up to them, you’ll be happy you did.