It's in the moments

It’s a special moment in your life when you realize you have found the person you want to spend forever with. When you know beyond a shadow of doubt that this person is the only one you want to let in to the complexity of who you are, good, bad, or indifferent.

I had that moment with Josh several months before we even started dating. In fact, I think our entire relationship leading up to us dating primed me to know early on that he was the one for me.

There are countless examples of moments in my life when Josh stepped up and was there for me in ways that I never asked for or expected. Our relationship, from the beginning, was close and unwavering. He seemed to always have my best interest at heart and he was truly the best friend I had ever had (and will ever have).

I think that deep relationships are formed in the small moments. When there are two choices to be made and you consistently choose the one that may not be easy, but brings you closer together.

When Josh and I were Seniors in high school and our friendship was still fairly new, I suffered a big loss. One of my closest friend’s moms died suddenly of an aneurysm. This woman was a close family friend and like a second mom. It really shook me up. I had a lot of hang ups because of it and it was something that I held on to for a long time. In fact, for about a month I wasn’t great. I would walk out of class in tears if it was quiet for too long, my appetite was diminished, and I couldn’t stop thinking about it. I distinctly remember being unable to fall asleep one night because of it and instead of blowing me off and leaving me to deal alone, Josh stayed up on the phone with me until I fell asleep.

That was just one example of countless moments in our relationship, where Josh or I have chosen each other, and been present even when it may have been difficult.

Like I said above, deep relationships are built in the small moments, when you think things may not make a difference. But those moments stack up and can really create something amazing.

Post Senior Year- a pic from one of our "moments" that led us to where we are