When the going is tough...

A telling time in any relationship is when you have to be there for your significant other/spouse. When things are sad, scary, frustrating, or uncertain, it is not the most glamorous time to be present. If you are with someone who doesn’t understand they have to take the good with the bad, you may end up even more upset, rather than feeling better.

I am so blessed that Josh understands there will be times in our relationship when things aren’t great. When I will need him to be there to dry my tears and help me to see the big picture. I am so thankful for his ability to do that too.

When things go crazy, I have the tendency to completely submerge myself in the situation and almost drown in it. I get caught up in feeling helpless or stretching myself thin trying to make every other area of my life perfect in order to make up for the not perfect parts.

There are numerous situations I could talk about in our relationship where Josh stepped up and helped me to see the light at the end of the tunnel. He has been there for me in ways that I honestly didn’t know I would ever need.

For example, when my aunt was battling breast cancer. That was of course a difficult time for me and my family. There was no preparing for what it would be like when she left us.

Then there is the fact that my grandparent’s health is declining. In a matter of what seemed like days, one ended up in the hospital and the other moved in with my family, and then later ended up in a different hospital. It was chaos. For about 7 days my grandparents were at hospitals in different counties and when it came time for their release, they had to move into a rehab facility.

Situations like these are not things you plan on and each one had its own effect on me. They shake up your day to day life and can be difficult to cope with.

Having a spouse that I can count on to not ditch when the going gets tough is a blessing. No one wants to deal with tough situations, but they are a part of life and when you love someone, you stick it out and stand beside them.