Distance

When Josh and I were dating at various times in our relationship we lived in different zip codes. For two years he was at ISU and then he did another two years at UW Madison before we got married. Being apart was definitely a struggle and having to wait for every other weekend to see each other, or until the end of the day for a good-night catch-up phone call, is not super exciting.

There were definitely moments that I was unbearable to tolerate because my patience had worn thin with our situation. I wanted desperately to be like my friends whose boyfriends were less than 30 minutes away at any given time. It sucked walking to class by myself when it seemed like everyone else was holding hands. In my opinion, distance did NOT make the heart grow fonder! I spent a lot of time being discontent and wishing things were different.

Oddly enough, looking back I am extremely thankful for those 4 years. That time apart and dealing with our difficult circumstances led us to have an extremely strong connection, and we learned to make the most of the time we did spend together. It even helped us to develop ourselves into the person we were meant to be on our own.

Honestly when I think about the couples that I was jealous of, the ones who got to see each other all the time, they didn’t have it that well off. In fact, every single one of them is no longer together! For various reasons they all called it quits shortly after they finished college.

I can’t imagine not being with Josh and if we had to endure living far from each other in order for it to pay off with us spending our lives together now, it was WELL worth it!

God knows what is best for us and for our relationship. I know that He planned our dating story in the perfect way and I cannot wait to see what our marriage holds.