Unpacking

Josh and I unpack and set-up in very different ways. Over the last couple of days I have learned that the way we are wired to handle tasks can become a source of frustration.

I really like to accomplish as much as humanly possible and want to have my home in order immediately. Josh is way more relaxed and slow when it comes to getting stuff done. I know that I have touched on this in a previous post, but it’ important to understand.

The way I am wired to push myself and finish things is something Josh doesn’t relate to. He would rather take things one box at a time, put everything from the box in its place, then take a break and do something enjoyable. This process, is annoying to me!

I would rather tackle a whole room at a time so that at the end of the day I can see the progress I made. I cannot function when things are a mess so if the house doesn’t get into a functional order fast, I feel like the rest of my life is a disaster too.

So when Josh is on a “hiatus” and I am still working on something, I have found myself to get really annoyed. But when I think about the way we are programmed to do things, it’s really interested to see it play out. We both get things done, we just get them done differently.

Instead of being mad at Josh for not plowing through things, I can now recognize that since he doesn’t work in that way that I am saving us the frustration of me begging him to work like me, or him insisting I do it his way.

We are different, but ultimately the goal is the same. 5 days into our new place, and it truly is almost set up. We worked together, on our own levels and made it happen.