True Love Waits.
Yes, I understand that in
our current culture it seems like that simple phrase is outdated but I am here
to share just how important it is.
When I was in 6th
grade I attended a lock-in, an all-nighter hosted by my youth group filled with
games and activities. The overwhelming topic of the night was purity and it was
there that I made the commitment to myself and God to wait until I was married
to have sex. I learned so much that night and understanding God’s perfect plan for
my life, it made sense to make the commitment. Some-time later I received a
purity ring from my dad, further symbolizing the choice that I made. I wore it
every day and it served as a reminder that I had greater things ahead of me.
Of course going through
high school was difficult because sex seems to be on everyone’s agenda, but
having already decided I wasn’t going to participate helped me to see the ugly
side. Yes, people were having sex but it wasn’t glamorous. The girls who
partook generally ended up being deemed as “easy” or “dirty.” The boys were of
course praised and considered “studs.” The culture we are surrounded by makes
it seem like everyone is sleeping around and that it’s just a part of growing
up. In reality, not everyone is doing it and if they are it is usually for the
wrong reasons.
Sex is not a way to find
love, or make you popular. If you choose to not have sex you are not any less
of a man, or a prude. Sex is a beautiful gift from God that unites two people
in an incredibly intimate way.
Any time I began a
relationship with someone in high school I made it incredibly clear that sex
outside of a marriage relationship was not going to happen. I believed in my
worth and didn’t fall into the trap of thinking I needed to sleep with boys to
prove something. God created each one of us in His image, we don’t have to
compromise ourselves.
When Josh and I got
together at the start of my college career, the same rule applied, and guess
what, he respected my decision. That right there ladies is a CLUE. Be with a
man who respects your decisions and commitments. NEVER let a man try to
convince you otherwise, sex is not love!
Don’t get me wrong,
waiting can be really hard. I dated Josh for over 5 years before he even
proposed! That is a long time to be in love with someone and still wait.
I have to tell you though,
it is INSANELY worth it. Saving yourself for marriage is a beautiful thing, and
I am thrilled that Josh and I did.
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