Regrets

Have you ever had things happen in your life that you are not proud of? And then you relive them in your head every day after, and once you finally get it out of your head, it comes back when you are least expecting it?

Of course you have. Everyone experiences regret on some level and wishes they could change something that they went through.

I have the tendency to relive those moments in my life when I am already sad or upset about something else.

About a week or so, I was having a moment where I was feeling really down and of course one of those icky memories came rushing back. I was sitting in our room trying to force the thought away and once again, reliving how bad I had felt. I absolutely hate when this happens!

Thankfully, my amazing husband came in to see what I was up to. I shared with him what was going on asked him if he ever relives the things in life that he regrets. His answer was profound and today I haven’t been able to keep it out of my head.

He said to me that he believes we relive the moments we regret, not because we need to constantly be reminded of our faults, but because it’s our way of reminding ourselves what we have learned and preventing ourselves from making the same mistakes. He said we aren’t meant to continually feel bad about something that we had already received forgiveness for. That we should see these memories as the learning experiences they are meant to me.

That was a pivotal moment for my thinking pattern. And once again I was in awe of the man God placed in my life. I swear I learn so much from him, and that quick conversation made all the difference in how I was feeling. And since then, I have learned to view these icky memories as the learning experiences they were.